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Wednesday, January 20, 2021

Celebrate calm

 


“....being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1:6

Calm is so very important so do this:

Refuse to give anyone power over your attitude and mood.

Refuse to allow anyone to dictate your response to them.

Refuse to give anyone the power to change your behavior.

Refuse to allow anyone to steal your peace and joy.

If someone is mean to you, remain kind.

If someone hurts you, forgive, but you no longer have to trust them.

If someone acts like a jerk. Have mercy.

Someone can be bitter. But be grateful that you do not have to live with that poison in your soul.

I cannot tell anyone what to do.

But I can tell you what I am going to do. I will keep calm.

This is self-control. This is humility. This is dignity. This is peace!

Saturday, January 16, 2021

Our house sells in a phone booth

 



The dictionary defines the word lavish as profuse, exuberant, lush and opulent.  So, when the Word of God says that the Lord lavishes his unfailing love on you, it’s not a little bit of love, it is not a second-hand kind of love, it is not a distant kind of love, no, it’s a first quality love, an exuberant and unconditional love.

In August 1990, when we left Ottawa for the mission field in Mexico, our beautiful country home in Carp was still on the market. It had been on the market for months. It was a beautiful home with all the bells and whistles, but in was far in the country side and expensive.  Therefore prospective buyers were and far and few between, even if it  was listed with a prominent Ottawa realtor.

Roger’s C.A. practice had been sold and he felt that we needed to leave even if the house was still on the market. To leave for the mission field without a sold sign on the property was somewhat scary, nevertheless, on August 2nd. waving at our three adult children and giving one last look at that “For Sale” sign, we left for California.

Back in those days, there were no cell phones and no wireless services. Nevertheless, before we left, we promised our kids to call them every day to make sure all was well back in Carp. Also it was to inform them how we were doing as we travelled throughout the United States to reach California.

Using a phone booth along the way was our only way to stay in touch. But, these type of phones would want us to deposit $3-$4 in quarters before giving us a connection. Using a credit card was not an option. Every evening, I would call our house in Carp. I would make a collect call and ask to speak to Denise. A collect call only required .25¢. If everything was fine, the kids would just say that I was not there and I would hang up.  If they needed to talk to us our daughter Chantal would get on the line and pretend to be me. This way we avoided long distance charges every evening.

One evening we were crossing the mountains when we finally found a campground in Yuma, Arizona. We were by then just about 4 hours away from San Diego. We ate supper and then called the kids from a phone booth near the campground office. By then it was 10:00 p.m. in Carp.

Chantal answered and pretended to be me.  She was in a mild state of panic as we had an offer on the house and it was due to expire at 11:59 p.m.

So, we called our realtor who was also in a mild panic waiting for our call.  Once she gave us the details, we concluded that probably by talking to the other realtor, we could come to an agreement on this offer.

Our realtor, keeping us on the line, called the prospective buyers realtor on another line, who called his client on another line.

We went back and forth for quite some time. At one point the camp ground manager brought us two chairs and told us: “If you are going to spend the evening in that phone booth, you might as well sit down.”

Every once in a while, the telephone operator would make us put more quarters in the payphone.  Again, the campground manager bailed us out by supplying us with those much needed quarters.

We had to decide on a fair price, so we haggled over that topic. Then we wanted a quick closing date, but the buyers wanted 60 days to get their finances arranged.

Anyhow, after 1.5 hour, we finally were agreed on all the details and made a verbal agreement that was to be followed the next day with a written contract sent by fax.

After thanking our realtor, we finally hung up.  It was 11:30 p.m. in Carp, but we still called the kids to tell them the good news.

The Lord had honored our faith by leaving after the business sold. Before we even got to San Diego, the house had sold. It sold, in a phone booth in Yuma, Arizona.

When we finally returned to our trailer, we realized that in this specific situation, the Lord had lavished His unfailing love on us, it was not a little bit of love, it was not a second-hand kind of love, it was not a distant kind of love, no, it was a first quality love, an exuberant and unconditional love. The Lord had just given us what we really needed for this specific need in our lives at that time. Amen!

To this day, almost 29 years later, He daily continues to lavish this kind of exuberant love on my life and ministry.

This song explains my feelings:

I am in awe of you
I am in awe of you
I am in awe of you
I am in awe of you
You are beautiful beyond description
Too marvelous for words
Too wonderful for comprehension
Like nothing ever seen or heard
Who can stand your infinite wisdom
Who can fathom the depths of your love
You are beautiful beyond description
Majesty and enthroned above
I stand, I stand in awe of You

Denise 


 

Friday, January 15, 2021

 


Exchanging garbage for food !

In the mid 1990’s, among the shanty towns we were helping, were three that were situated near Tijuana’s biggest dump site at the time. Colonia Salva Tierra was the closest, with Colonias Flores Magon and Las Cumbres also in that area.

For a few years we worked with a wonderful older couple who had a house and feeding station at the exit of the dumpsite in Salva Tierra. We brought food every week.  We also often had bible studies with the kids. Standing at the back of the van with Roger and the sweet older pastor holding our song sheets, we sang with the kids. With our eyes closed and holding our noses to keep the smell away, it was easy to imagine that we were singing with a children’s choir in a nice church in San Diego.

Working with these children was a unique and precious experience. Many of these kids did not go to school. On this Tijuana landfill, children often work alongside their families. They collected and tried to sell all sorts of items they found rummaging through garbage from sunrise to sunset.

These people were called Pepenadores, which means: waste pickers. They are people from the community who make their living picking through the trash left by city dump trucks. Almost everything they have, wear, or even eat comes from the dump. In the garbage, families find what they need to survive.

There were even some of these families that had built shacks and lived on the dumpsite itself. There were no sewers nor running water on the dumpsite. Electricity was stolen from nearby electrical poles. Since this was considered an illegal community, there were absolutely no city services available in that area.

Working with those kids we quickly learned to have a strong stomach and to turn off our sense of smell. They would come straight from the dump to the feeding station. Even though they were filthy and smelly their big smiles won us over week after week. They had to be some of the most grateful kids we were helping at the time.

During that time, we also had a feeding station in Colonia Flores Magon. One day, after delivering food at our feeding station, we were leaving the Colonia on our way to another of our feeding stations. Walking by the side of the road, we saw a family we knew who lived in Flores Magon. The three kids regularly came to our feeding program and bible studies. As soon as the kids saw our red van, they started to waive. Roger stopped the van and we got out to talk to family. The mother told us that they had just gone to the dumpsite to try to find some food. The kids each had a dirty little metal pail in which they had their dumpsite food.

Not wanting to offend them, we diplomatically looked at what was in the pails. Even though we were both shocked, we had to act as though everything was normal.

Their little pails were full of broken pieces of dirty tortillas, pieces of mold ridden bread and half-eaten vegetables. It was completely disgusting. Our first thought was to throw these pails in the ravine by the side of the road. But, this would have been very offensive to this family.

Roger had the gift of diplomacy. I, on the contrary was more direct. He used to tell me that at times my diplomacy was accompanied by a brick. In our years together, if he thought that I was going to use my kind of diplomacy, he would simply say: “Denise, let me take care of this.”

On, that day, on that dirt road, a short walk from the dumpsite, even Roger was not to sure how to handle the situation. Remembering that we had food in the van including some cookies, he asked the kids if they wanted cookies. Of course, their answer was yes.

We then went to the back of the van and opened the doors. First, Roger reached for the box with cookies and handed me a bag for each child. The kids were very happy.

While Roger was taking out the cookies the kids had deposited their dirty little pails at the back of the van. With perfect timing, the Holy Spirit moved in like a gentle breeze into Roger’s spirit and he asked the kids if they could do him a favor. I had no clue was he was doing, but he had the children’s attention, so, I just stood there and waited to see what was going to happen.

The three kids were very enthusiastic about the thought of being helpful to hermano Roger. Then, he said: “I have a proposal to make to the three of you.” He then put an empty cardboard box near the kids dirty little pails and asked the kids if they were willing to exchange what they had in their pails for some of the food we had in the van. The kids were excited and of course their answer was yes. By then, their mom got closer to the back of the van and Roger had her full attention. The children knew that our food was good because we gave them groceries on a regular basis.

Carefully and with gentleness, Roger picked up each little pail and emptied it in the carboard box. Then, he turned to me and asked me to help him. We filled three plastic bags with rice, beans, bread and whatever else we had in the van. I handed the bags of good and clean food to the kids. The smile on their faces was all the reward we needed. They said thank you and we each received a big hug, including one from their mom. 

Meanwhile, the dirty little pails were still at the back of the van. Not giving them back was not an option.  Since Roger had started this “project”, I was not going to interfere. He took another plastic bag and put the dirty little pails in the bag. Then, he handed the bag to the mom without saying word.

He then closed the van doors and after getting another round of hugs we got back in the van to go to our next destination.

 When situations like this one arose, after we had dealt with it, we often did not feel like talking. The emotions could be overwhelming. Silence was like a refuge where we could process what had just happened.

 We drove to our next destination. Before unloading the food, Roger took a garbage bag and put the entire cardboard box containing the dump food, inside the bag. Then, he left on the side of the road near our other feeding station so the garbage truck could pick it up. The irony was that this spoiled food came from the dumpsite and that is where it was going back. Amen!

I had not seen everything that was in those dirty little pails, but Roger told me that when he dumped the contents in the cardboard box, he saw bugs crawling on the food.

I am so grateful that the Lord permitted us to be on that road, exactly at the same time as this family was walking home from the dumpsite. That was not a coincidence, rather it was certainly a divine appointment.

In Matthew 25: Verse 35a, the Word of God says: “For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat…”

Verse 40 says: Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.”

As Christians, we always should be attentive to anyone coming out of their “own brand of dump” and needing our help. When we lend a helping hand to one of these, it is Jesus Himself we are helping. That thought should always motivate us to be kind and compassionate.

  

God bless you,

Denise

 

 

Note: That dumpsite has now been closed for several years. Amen!

 

 

 

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